Okay – I’m willing to put something out here because this is an interesting blog. I believe in learning from mistakes but I’d also warn that not everyone can disclose the mistakes they’ve made!
In the mid-1990s I studied the gender dynamics of rural women’s groups in western Kenya. NGOs, donors and generally outsiders were certainly preoccupied with women’s groups.
I found that careful understanding of the role of men in women’s groups was warranted. Just as development made women invisible, it also erased men even when they were active in so-called “women’s groups”. See the story in Francis Cleaver (2000) Masculinity Matters. Zed Books. Or contact me for a copy.